Third Age blog post, by Suzan Jackson: What do you do when a loved one becomes chronically ill?
Sooner or later, it happens to all of us. A beloved friend or family member develops a chronic illness, and their life changes dramatically with that diagnosis and new restrictions. Of course, we want to be there for our loved one – to say just the right thing and offer help – but the sad truth is that many people instead say nothing, for fear of saying the wrong thing.
Here’s how Suzan Jackman suggests you reach out to your friend or family member to support them when they need you most, based on the experiences of people who are chronically ill:
Don’t Say Nothing
Do Try Simple Statements of Support
Don’t Offer To Help Without Specifics
Do Help in Specific Ways
Don’t Offer Unsolicited Advice
Do Pass Along Scientific Studies (But Not Too Often)
Don’t Make Unplanned Visits or Phone Calls
Do Show Your Support
Don’t Pretend Everything Is Fine
Do Acknowledge the Illness & Show Interest
Don’t Pity or Judge Your Loved One
Do Show Compassion, Empathy, and Acceptance
Don’t Take Cancellations or Absences Personally
Do Keep Inviting!
Read more by Suzan Jackson and Live with CFS
